Sorority Recruitment – To Be Or Not To Be

My advice to those who are going through recruitment this year.

Be prepared. If recommendations are strongly encouraged on your campus, make the effort to obtain recs from as many of the National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) groups on your campus as is possible. Ask teachers, family friends and acquaintances, co-workers, etc. if they are members of NPC organizations. The proper forms are available from the respective NPC organization from their magazine, website or headquarters. Alumnae Panhellenic organizations often offer sessions to guide the new college student in this task. Do it now if you are participating in a fall recruitment, if you haven’t started this process already.

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Be open to all organizations. The badges, songs, colors, and mascots vary, but the experience of being a member in any of the 26 NPC organizations is essentially the same. The values and basic tenets of the organizations are very similar. 

Be yourself and be true to yourself.  Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Be the very best version of yourself that you can be. Just because your mom, sister, grandmother, or cousin twice removed belonged to XYZ, it doesn’t mean that you need to follow suit. Being a legacy does not mean an automatic bid;  some chapters have two, three and four times the amount of legacies going through recruitment than the number of women (quota) to whom they can offer bids.

Be hospitable and gracious. Do not talk up or down any organization with the other women going through recruitment. When talk turns to gossip, be the one who stops it. Remember that golden rule; if you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.

Be at Bid Day. See the process to the end. If you are not invited back to the chapter you had your heart set on, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and visit the chapters which invited you back. Don’t just drop out because the scenario did not play out the way you wanted it to. Sometimes things work out for the better despite the fact that they aren’t as we had anticipated them. I could fill a book with stories of women who could never have envisioned themselves in VWX chapter and yet, on graduation day, they couldn’t imagine being anywhere else.

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Kudos to @SigEpsWhoServe

Memorial Day was a week ago, but I want to highlight something I mentioned then because I am in awe of the effort which has gone into it. SigEp Patriots Project (SPP), @SigEpsWhoServe on twitter, is a grassroots effort to document and honor the military service of Sigma Phi Epsilon members.

In March 2001, Ed Jones had finished his graduate work and was employed by Binghamton University. He said, “I missed my fraternity brothers, and I missed my Navy ‘Shipmates’ – I wanted more interaction / contact with both. As time was limited, I thought, ‘Why not reach out to the Sig Eps who are also military guys – kind of a two-birds-with-one-stone mindset.'” After the events of that September 11, his efforts took on a “bigger meaning.”

Early on, he began archiving information about Sig Eps serving in the military so that they could connect with one another. In November 2009, while Jones was serving in Afghanistan, the Sig Ep Patriots Project was born.

To commemorate Memorial Day 2018, a group of Sig Eps headed to Arlington National Cemetery, the resting place of at least 181 members. The group visited the graves of about 50 of them, “among them were more than a dozen that we had found since our Veterans Day event, as well as brothers that we had not visited recently. They were brothers of various ages, branches, ranks and from Sig Ep chapters all over the country,” according to Jones. More than a dozen such visits to Arlington National Cemetery have taken place.

Among the graves visited last week was the one where Major James Winters, U.S. Army, a member of the Tennessee Alpha Chapter who served in the Vietnam War. When the group arrived at his grave, his widow was there. They shared with her the  “Today in SigEp Patriot History” post about her husband. She “was thrilled to see that we were remembering her husband with a red rose on Memorial Day.” The red rose is one of Sig Ep’s flowers.

Over the years, SPP has identified and documented the service of more than 9,000 Sig Ep patriots, determined which Sig Eps are buried at Arlington, and discovered that Sig Ep Justice M. Chambers was awarded the Medal of Honor. The group established a scholarship in Chambers’ name that helps undergraduate members of the military.

More than 50 care packages have been sent to deployed brothers. The group the Flag Legacy Program, which facilitates the passing of a Sig Ep and U.S. flag among brothers who are deployed worldwide.

Nearly 1,200 military brothers are members of the SPP Facebook page, and the group “celebrates accomplishments, help brothers connect, assist guys that are transferring to a new duty station.” The “Today in SigEp Patriot History” is available on the Facebook page and the @SigEpsWhoServe twitter feed highlights that info, too.

Jones reiterated that SPP is a “grassroots effort meant to honor and remember our military brothers, ensure they are never forgotten, support those brothers who serve as well as their families, and educate others about these amazing men, their contributions, and in some cases their sacrifices.” I commend Jones and his group’s efforts to make sure the Sig Eps who have served our country are recognized and acknowledged for their service.

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Alpha Gamma Delta, Syracuse and Emily Butterfield, May 30, 1904

Alpha Gamma Delta was founded at Syracuse University on May 30, 1904 at the home of Dr. Wellesley Perry Coddington, a Syracuse University professor. Alpha Gamma Delta is the youngest of the Syracuse Triad, the three National Panhellenic Conference organizations founded at Syracuse University. The other two, Alpha Phi and Gamma Phi Beta, were founded in 1872 and 1874, respectively.

By 1901, all seven of the founding National Panhellenic Conference organizations had chapters at Syracuse. Coddington, who had a hand in the early years of Alpha Phi, realized that the campus needed another women’s fraternity. He approached several young female students and discussions ensued. Though excitement started to grow, the women managed to keep the possibility of another organization on campus very quiet. Edith MacConnell was recovering from a serious accident and was a patient at the Homeopathic Hospital. Not even the nurses attending to her had any idea what was taking place, despite the steady stream of visitors to her room.

The announcement in the Daily Orange, the school’s newspaper, noted:

A new Greek-letter fraternity has been organized among the women of the university. The name is Alpha Gamma Delta and the members thus far are: Marguerite Shepard, ’05; Jennie C. Titus, ’05; Georgia Otis, ’06; Ethel E. Brown, ’06; Flora M. Knight, ’06, Estelle Shepard, ’06; Emily H. Butterfield, ’07; Edith MacConnell, ’07; Grace R. Mosher, ’07; Mary L. Snider, ’07.

In 1887, Coddington’s home at 106 Walnut Place cost $5,500 to build. There he and his wife Louisa raised four children born between 1865 and 1876. Coddinton’s wife Louisa died in 1908. He died in 1913 while on a trip to Germany. In 1944, Coddington’s son, Rev. Herbert G. Coddington, sold the property to Syracuse University for $8,570. It was used as small group housing, including a stint as home to Alpha Omicron Pi. In 2002, the university gave the house a major overhaul, renovating it for the Division of International Programs Abroad (SU Abroad).

The former Coddington home as it looks today. Photo courtesy of Syracuse University.

The former Coddington home as it looks today. Photo courtesy of Syracuse University.

 

During Alpha Gamma Delta’s first year, the chapter met in a third floor room of a home at 1005 East Genesee Street. The chapter’s first house was located at 761 Irving Avenue. On April 30, 1907, it was the site of the first Alpha Gamma Delta convention. Delegates from the Beta Chapter at the University of Wisconsin and the Gamma Chapter at Wesleyan College in Connecticut were in attendance, along with several Alpha Chapter representatives.

 

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One of the more interesting things that happened during 1905-06, the first year in the chapter house, were described in the January 1931 edition of the Alpha Gamma Delta Quarterly:

After the day’s duties, when all is wrapped in slumber, suddenly across the midnight stillness there comes a terrible crash seeming to shake the house from its foundations. What has happened? Perhaps the tower of John Crouse College has fallen. Or a clumsy burglar has stumbled against a substantial piece of furniture. A knock at the door and a voice calling for a candle, starts a search for matches. After a slight delay we marshal our little band for the descent to the first floor where unknown horrors may await, although all is now still as death. Emily [Butterfield, I presume, the future architect and squirrel enthusiast], bolder than the rest, leads; the others following in Indian file. At the last turn of the stairway, she stops suddenly and turning to a line of white faces above, says calmly, ‘Girls, the plaster has fallen in the parlor.’

Plaster falling was, it seemed, a common occurrence in the house:

Another time during breakfast, a dull thud was heard upstairs. Upon investigation, it was found that the plaster had this time fallen into the bed which Georgia Dickover had just left. A week later the new plaster fell before it was dry, some of it sticking to the floor as long as the chapter lived there.

agd 1st houseThe chapter’s current home, at 709 Comstock Avenue, was designed by founder Emily Butterfield.

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Honoring Memories on Memorial Day

I am grateful for the men and women who have served our country and today I honor those who gave the ultimate sacrifice. “Of ever honored memory,” a phrase used by Beta Theta Pi, is one that runs through my head today and I hope that Beta will not mind me borrowing it on Memorial Day.

I admire those who document the efforts put forth by those who served our country. I follow the  on twitter. A Sig Ep alumnus has compiled an impressive file of Sig Eps who have served their country and he shares his research on twitter.

I also saw this post for an exhibit at Knox College and I wish it wasn’t a five-hour drive to get there. I’d love to see this exhibit. 

 

I had no idea who John A. Logan was until I moved to Southern Illinois. An American soldier and politician, he was born in 1826, and he died a little more than 60 years later. Logan was elected Illinois State Senator, Congressman, and U.S. Senator. He, on a ticket with James G. Blaine, ran an unsuccessful campaign for Vice-President of the United States. As a soldier he served in the Mexican-American War. He later became a General in the Union Army. Logan was the 3rd Commander-in-Chief of the Grand Army of the Republic (GAR). To him has been given much of the credit in the establishment of Memorial Day. The first observance of Decoration Day, as Memorial Day was known, has been claimed by many locales, but I believe this plaque which resides  in Woodlawn Cemetery.

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A few past posts with ties to Memorial Day:

On Memorial Day, “In Flanders Fields”

“Ye Are Not Dead” on Memorial Day 2017

#WHM – Gladys Gilpatrick, AΔΠ, and the Pillar in Memorial Stadium

Helen Marlowe, Tennis Champion, Zeta Tau Alpha, and Marine Captain

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Meeting a Kappa Alpha During Bike Month

At Tuesday’s Rotary Club of Carbondale-Breakfast meeting at Cristaudo’s, an announcement was made that it was Bike Month. And then the president of the club added that during the meeting a bike rider who was biking across the country had parked his bike outside and was in the bakery adjacent to our meeting room. He encouraged us to chat with him on our way out. 

And that I did, especially after I saw his Kappa Alpha athletics shirt. James Rosenberg, a member of Kappa Alpha Order during his undergraduate days at Emory University, was biking across the country, from Virginia to Oregon. 

He left Virginia on April 29 on a 4,200 mile trek on his Ride for Kore, to raise funds and awareness for women entrepreneurs in Kore, Ethiopia. He said that the previous night, after he enjoyed pizza at Quatro’s, he spied the Kappa Alpha house nearby. That is where he spent the night. He said he’d been offered hospitality at a few KA houses on his travels thus far. He is blogging about his adventure. Rosenberg is beginning his MBA at Columbia University in the fall.

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The First NPC Meeting – Chicago, May 24, 1902

May 24, 1902, is a special day for the National Panhellenic Conference, the umbrella organization of 26 women’s fraternities and sororities. Although a first meeting of seven women’s organizations happened in Boston in 1891, little was accomplished and save for a day at the 1893 Columbian Exposition, little happened to foster cooperation between the women’s fraternities and sororities.

Margaret Mason Whitney, Alpha Phi’s National President, sent a postcard to the women who were scheduled to attend the first meeting.

The postcard reads:

Inter-sorority Conference, Chicago

On May 24 (Saturday) at 2:30 p.m. (sharp) the following representatives of Greek letter national college fraternities will meet at Mandel’s Tea Room to discuss rushing and pledging.

Pi Beta Phi, Miss Gamble, Detroit, Mich

Kappa Alpha Theta, Miss Laura Norton, 2556 N. Ashland Ave., Chicago

Kappa Kappa Gamma, Miss Margaret Jean Paterson, 6117 Kimbark Ave.

Delta Gamma, Miss Nina F. Howard, Glencoe, Ill.

Gamma Phi Beta, Miss Lillian Thompson, 326 W. 61st Place

Delta Delta Delta, Miss Kellerman

Alpha Phi, Miss Ruth Terry, 1812 Hinman Ave., Evanston

We trust nothing will prevent your being present.

Margaret Mason Whitney, President Alpha Phi

May 17, 1902

Among the women who attended the 1902 meeting was Delta Delta Delta’s Grand Treasurer Ivy Kellerman (Reed, Ph.D.), then a doctoral student at the University of Chicago. A Phi Beta Kappa, she would become a linguist, lawyer, wife and mother who was an ardent proponent of the international language Esperanto.

Delta Gamma’s delegate, Nina Foster Howard, wrote for her family’s publication, Farm, Field and Fireside. In 1905, she and a friend, “two prominent society women,” as a newspaper called them, started a violet farm in Glencoe, Illinois.

Minnie Ruth Terry was Alpha Phi’s delegate. She was a Phi Beta Kappa at Northwestern, and she studied in Europe after graduation and then taught French. She is the one who made the arrangements for the site of the meeting, the Columbus Safe Deposit Vaults (sometimes called the  Columbus Safety Vaults), where the cost for the use of the room was the yearly $5 safe deposit box rental. The room could seat 40 comfortably, and the building was located at 31 North State Street. 

Lillian W. Thompson, Gamma Phi Beta, served as Chairman at the 1913 meeting. She attended the 1902 meeting and shared her experiences in an article in The Crescent of Gamma Phi Beta. It was reprinted in many of the other magazines in 1913:

This sort of meeting was quite new to me. I had only the vaguest idea of what the delegates were expected to do; and having been brought up in the good old school in which those who were not of were against us, I had no great desire to meet my friends the enemy. There was no time to debate, however, and nothing to do but to go, so one afternoon in September [sic], I entered the lunch room at Mandel’s looking for a group of women wearing fraternity pins. I easily found them, introduced myself, and then racked my brains for topics of conversation which should be both polite and safe; for I had a most uneasy feeling that some fraternity secret might escape me unawares, and fall into hostile hands.

Mandel Brother’s, Chicago, Illinois, Early 1900s

The group moved from Mandel’s to the site of the meeting itself:

Miss Terry, the delegate from Alpha Phi, whose duty it was to make all the arrangements, had found a most appropriate place for our meeting — a safety deposit vault; and before long we were admitted through heavy iron gratings to a long passage way, which led at last to a director’s room, closed by a massive wooden door which seemed amply able to keep the biggest secrets from escaping to the outer world. We all sat down at the big table, and for the first few minutes there seemed to be a be a vague feeling of insecurity — of suspense. We were waiting, I think, for that illusive, and yet most potent thing, ‘the tone of the meeting’ to be established, and until some one supplied it we were ill at ease. This duty fell to Miss Terry, our chairman, and as I look back on that first meeting, I can plainly see that the whole Pan-Hellenic movement was given its successful start by her. Miss Terry is one of those calm, well balanced, fair-minded women, who state business in such a clear unbiased way that one feels impelled at once to consider things without prejudice.  Gradually we all warmed to the work, forgot our strangeness, and talked over Alpha Phi’s rushing agreement with the utmost interest and frankness. Before we left, a most friendly spirit had developed; we had enjoyed our afternoon, saw plenty of work ahead of us, and looked forward with pleasure to meeting again.

In a year or so, the director’s room became too small for us. A morning meeting was added to the afternoon session, and we decided to meet at a hotel and to take lunch together, that we might have more opportunity to get acquainted. By this time I had begun to discover a number of ‘typical Gamma Phis’ who had mysteriously strayed into other fraternities. The discussions, too, had been bringing out the strong points of the various societies….At each meeting we learned some scheme which we longed to try in our own fraternity, and went home full of plans for introducing it.

With 11 years of experiences on which to reflect, she added:

As year after year went by, we were delighted to see the work of our conference succeeding, though slowly. Our own meetings seemed like the chapter meetings of some fraternity, rather than a gathering of delegates from so many different groups. It is astonishing to me, as I look back, to note the unruffled peace and good will of our conferences. Even when there were disputes to settle, there was no bitterness or suspicion. Everyone knew that every one else was trying to find out what was best and how to do it. This feeling of kindliness and confidence has been the greatest result of our meetings. If we can pass this on to the fraternity world, we shall have done the one thing necessary to remove all criticisms of fraternities.

 

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Congratulations Miss USA 2018!

Congratulations Miss USA 2018, Sarah Rose Summers, a Zeta Tau Alpha alumna from Texas Christian University! She was Miss Nebraska USA. Her name has been added to the list of sorority women who have won Miss America and Miss USA.

Sarah Rose Summers at her graduation

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The Miss America 2018 state contests are underway in preparation for the Miss America 2019 contest. The majority of state competitions take place in June and I will be adding names as I discover which state winners are sorority women.

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I’ve written about the history of the Panhellenic House – Beekman Tower Hotel. Until a few years ago, it had been a hotel. And then the hotel closed, including the Top of the Tower bar. The bar is open again and I might need to visit NYC soon. Here is a New York Times article about the new establishment at the top of the tower.

 

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Northwestern Kappa Kappa Gamma Weds a Royal, “Oh Pat”!

Aside from Crown Princess Martha of Norway who was an alumna initiate of Delta Zeta, there are, I dare say, no royals who have been initiated as a sorority woman while an undergraduate.

This morning, Meghan Markle became HRH The Duchess of Sussex upon her marriage to Prince Harry. While a member of the Northwestern chapter of Kappa Kappa Gamma, she served as recruitment chairman. I suspect that experience will serve her well in her new duties; after all, isn’t life just a series of recruitment events?

My Monmouth Duo sisters, the members of Kappa Kappa Gamma, as well as all sorority women, have reason to celebrate.

The Spring 2018 Key of Kappa Kappa Gamma included a spread about things royal.

 

Oh Pat is a song that Kappas sing. It’s based on a traditional Irish jig. Its first appearance in a Kappa song book was in 1921. It was attributed to the Northwestern and Missouri chapters.

https://twitter.com/riyeaah/status/997857378522550272?s=09

 

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Royal Weddings and More

Playin’ catch-up again!

Tomorrow, Kappa Kappa Gamma Meghan Markle will become the wife of Britain’s Prince Harry. She will not be a princess, however, but her title will be the Duchess of Sussex. Best wishes to the royal couple and I hope her something blue is a nod to Kappa’s colors.

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Congratulations to the Patels!

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Condolences to the family and friends, especially those with Phi Kappa Sigma and Washington and Lee connections.

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RBG, a movie about the life of Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Alpha Epsilon Phi, is currently on the big screen in selected markets. Lucky you if you are near a theater that is showing it. Go see it now and report back.

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Congratulations to Mari Ann Callais, Theta Phi Alpha, upon being named one of the five 2018 Annie Award honorees by the Greater Hammond Louisiana Chamber of Commerce. Mari Ann and the other four honorees “works tirelessly and gives selflessly to the improvement of the greater Hammond community and Tangipahoa Parish. They are a credit to the legacy of beloved Southeastern professor, Dr. Anne M. Ferguson,” said Chairman Elsbet Smith Hollywood. The award luncheon will take place on Friday, June 8, 2018.

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This weekend is also a busy one for the women competing in Miss USA 2018 pageant. It will take place on May 21, 2018 at the Hirsch Memorial Coliseum in Shreveport, Louisiana. Hosts will be Vanessa and Nick Lachey. There are many sorority women competing in it and if I have missed anyone, please let me know via the contact form at the bottom of this post. 

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On Alpha Delta Pi’s Founders’ Day

Alpha Delta Pi was founded as the Adelphean Society on May 15, 1851 at Wesleyan Female College in Macon, Georgia. In 1905, the Society changed its name to Alpha Delta Phi and installed its second chapter at Salem College in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. A third chapter was founded at Mary Baldwin Seminary, in Staunton, Virginia, in 1906.

The Delta Chapter at the University of Texas was installed on June 6, 1906. It is the oldest, continuous Alpha Delta Pi chapter. It was the sixth sorority chapter on campus. Alpha Chapter member Jewel Davis (Scarborough) went to the University of Texas as a graduate student with the intention of creating a chapter there. Davis, a Delta Chapter charter member, installed the chapter all by herself. She composed the first whistle and served as National President from 1913-17. Dean Helen Marr Kirby was an Adelphean and proved herself as a valuable friend of the chapter. During 1908-09, the chapter lived in an eight-room house with a professor and his wife as chaperons and the chapter owned most of the furniture in the house.

Mabelle Fuller (Sperry), who served three terms as National President from 1921-27, was an early initiate of the chapter. During 1911-12, the non-sorority women were “the cause of considerable disturbance throughout the year, finally petitioning the state legislature to put the Greek letter societies out of school. The move was unsuccessful and was voted down at a special session of the legislature.” (History of Alpha Delta Pi, 1930).

Mabelle Fuller Sperry

Alpha Delta Phi joined the National Panhellenic Conference in 1909. The installation of the Sigma Chapter at the University of Illinois in 1912 came shortly after the installation, on the same campus, of the Illinois Chapter of Alpha Delta Phi, a men’s fraternity whose chapters were primarily in the northeast. Alpha Delta Phi, the men’s fraternity, was founded in 1832 at Hamilton College in Clinton, New York. The women made their organization aware of this duplication of name and the problems that surfaced because of it. In 1913, the convention body voted to change the name  to Alpha Delta Pi.

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